You Are the Creator of Your Own Happiness
Human beings are capable of so much. We are creative, intelligent, sensitive, emotional, and complex beings. We have the power to literally change the world, and yet so often, we get stuck in our everyday lives and don’t realize our potential. This lack of purpose can result in feelings of restlessness or anxiety, of wanting to see a bigger picture of our own lives. We often succumb to these feelings and live in a state of mere existence, rather than being true to our capabilities and talents and truly living. We can make happiness for ourselves, we just need to choose to do so.
As Ken Robinson states in his book “The Element: How Finding Your Passion Changes Everything,” figuring out what we love to do and then getting out there and doing results in what he calls “the element.” He describes the element as the “meeting point between natural aptitude and personal passion.” (page 21) When we find this element, we discover a place where our natural capabilities and the things we most love to do collide. We don’t experience superficial happiness, which is fleeting and totally based on emotion. We are connected to a deep inner sense of worth, of fulfillment, and an inherent knowledge that this, this passion we have found for ourselves, is us. A personal calling that no one else can take away.
But getting to this place takes hard work. There is no rigid formula for figuring out where our personal elements are. (page 21) It is different for everyone. We are all born with a longing to leave our legacy on the world. Os Guinness describes this in his book “The Call: Finding and Fulfilling the Central Purpose of Your Life.” We want to live for something definite. (page 2) And this can change throughout our lives. For example, say our goal is to graduate with a 4.0 GPA from a prestigious university. Say we complete that with flying colors. What do we do then? We certainly haven’t exhausted our resources and capabilities. We just need to get right back out there and figure out our element for this new phase in our lives. For some of us, however, the joy and the purpose comes in the journey of life. We are called to one ultimate goal and we find fulfillment, happiness and meaning in getting there. There is no wrong or right answer to how and where we find true meaning and purpose in our lives. Everyone is unique, and so will be our talents, our goals, our dreams, and the things we feel called to do with our lives. The most important thing is that once we discover what these things are, what our element is, we act on it, and in so doing we leave a mark on the world and on ourselves. No matter how we find our happiness, we can know that we don’t just exist, we live. We have found our purpose, which gives meaning to our every action, which in turn gives us happiness and a sense of accomplishment.
Guinness, Os. “The Call: Finding and Fulfilling the Central Purpose of Your Life.” Thomas Nelson, Inc, Oct. 7, 2003.
Robinson, Ken. “The Element: How Finding Your Passion Changes Everything.” Penguin, 2009.