There are lots of reasons why one might not feel happy in his or her life. It may not even be necessarily that something bad has happened, often it’s just a feeling of sadness or loneliness. We can get caught up in depression or anxiety, which can lead to withdrawing into oneself and result in even more sadness and loneliness. It can be a vicious cycle. Especially in today’s society where so much importance is placed on social media and instant gratification, it is hard to find true meaning in one’s life.
Sometimes we need to take a few weeks, or months even, to step back and evaluate where we are mentally, spiritually, and emotionally in our lives. If we’re feeling unhappy, we need to give serious thought as to why. Happiness isn’t an inherent value in our lives. It could very well be that we’re just existing – going to work or school every day, coming home, doing our day-to-day tasks – and we’re not actually living. And most of the time this is no one’s fault but our own. If happiness is the end goal, we need to get out there and make it happen.
Figuring out our purpose in life is a big step to creating the life we want to live. It will drive our every action, and give us big-picture goals to work toward. Our goals give us meaning in our lives, something important to do, and thusly creating a sense of accomplishment, or happiness. Our life’s purpose can be anything: a dream career, being a wife and mom, getting a second master’s degree, traveling, etc. No matter what we feel led to do in our lives, the goal is getting out there and accomplishing all that we can. Of course there will be setbacks, some days will be good, others not so good, but life is all about the journey. We need to focus on being the best we can be. Creating a meaningful life, filled with our all-important purposes, will be hard. Nothing worth doing is ever easy. And it all starts with self-awareness – accepting who we are, where we are in our lives, where we want to go from here, and what our purpose is. We need to be ok with who we are above anything else. We need to have total confidence that we can and will do everything we set in front of ourselves, and after that, things will start to fall into place. We will cease to “exist” and we will start living. We will enjoy the little things, and continuously work towards the big things. Figuring out a purpose gives our life and our actions meaning, and that meaning we find in everything we do will create long-term happiness and a sense of profound personal accomplishment.